10 Sep 2011

Fear!

There is many types of fear, i am going to talk about Fear due to failure/what you want to achieve.

Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger, if we couldn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. But often we fear situations that are in no way life-or-death, and hang back for no good reason. Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response within us that is hard. Yet if we expose ourselves to our personal demons it is the best way to move past them.But sometimes it can mean you have to take action now, sometimes you get the chance to do something about it then and there, because sometimes by the time the fear subsides, it will be too late, at that time you are not afraid of what you were planning to start/do/say, someone else will have already done it, it will already be said, done, or be irrelevant. The reason we are afraid is that there’s leverage here, something that MIGHT happen. Which is exactly what we are looking for.

 Many of us when we think of fear, we think of danger, if we feel any kind of fear that it must mean something bad is happening or about to happen and therefore try to avoid it. Those of us who live this way, feel fear immediately, stop, turn around, and run back to the cozy place we are used to, even though we might complain about it and say how much we want to change something, fear manages to get in the way.

Think about what you want to gain or achieve , and then think about what exactly is stopping you? Your friends? Your family? People disapproving? Success? Failure?  We can make as much excuses as we like but what it all boils down to is FEAR. The big roadblock.

Lack of motivation can get you stuck while contemplating how much your life sucks. If you don’t become clear on your motivation it can become hard to get going and knowing why you actually need to change. If you have a fear of failure, think of it in a different light you do not need to have a fear of failing because from every failure you are learning and getting stronger. It is similar to my last post here In the Present. You have got to keep yourself steadily in the now, in the present. Not letting your thoughts and emotions run away to the future or the past, thinking of all the things and situations that could go wrong it is just another fear roadblock.

Change will be hard if you deep down still think: I am this shy or negative or scared person. “That’s just who I am”, you tell yourself. “Always have been, always will be”. And that will be the truth for you as long as you think it’s the truth. If you are prepared and ready to change, you can however rewrite what you perceive as the truth about yourself and your personality, thoughts, actions and emotions.That is just my opinion on what fear is , but dont forget from every failure we were afraid of, we could have stood up shot ahead while dealing with our fear of failure even if we did fail we would have learned something about our fear and how to overcome it.

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